“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”― Lao Tzu
Most of the people in the world worrying about what other people think of him/her, i used to be the same and i am very happy to tell you that how i overcome this. Quote by LAO TZU above worked for me very beutifully. Different people have different mind so here i am providing you the several way ro overcome this problem. I hope you will find your weapon and get rid of dielema from now on All the best.
No One Really Cares
Believe it or not, we’re not that special. We go through our days thinking about how other people might be judging us. But the truth is—those people are thinking the exact same thing. No one in today’s “smartphone-crazed” society has time in their schedule to think more than a brief second about us. The fact of the matter is, when we do have time get our thoughts straight, we’re too busy thinking about ourselves and our own shortcomings—not others.
Understand why you care.
In order to break the cycle, it’s important to understand where the energy is coming from. We’ve been socialized by a culture that sets norms for our belongingness. From birth, we’re taught we should act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain products, and adhere to certain ideologies to be liked and accepted. Social media brings the popularity contest to a whole new level, where how many friends we have, and how much they “like” us, is now publicly broadcast and recorded.
Practice daily self-love and acceptance.
When you’re living and creating from a place of genuine love and acceptance, you will know that what other people do, say, and think about you really has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If you don’t like what they have to say about you, you can walk away knowing you are being true to yourself.
Stop over-thinking. Most of the time, when you think you are being judged, you probably aren’t. It’s just too hard to judge every single person you meet, analyzing their flaws and imperfections like they’re a test you’re grading. One way to test this is to push your limits a little and do something that is a bit out of the ordinary for you. See how people react. Chances are that only your “friends” will notice the change and make comments, but a random stranger really won’t care.
Learn to control your emotions. When you start to push your limits and get more confident, you’ll undoubtedly have mixed emotions. From stress, worry and fear, to relief and happiness, it can be a bit of a rollercoaster of the mind; that is where controlling your emotions comes in. The simple practice taught by Eckhart Tolle goes a bit like this:
- Be conscious of an emotion inside you — e.g. fear or worry
- Observe it within your mind
- Notice that if you are observing it, it can’t be a part of you
- Watch the emotion disappear
- As soon as you observe an emotion, you are separating yourself from it and thus it can no longer exist.
Accept yourself for who you are.
Understandably, accepting yourself is not the easiest thing to do. Everyone in the world is filled with some kind of doubt; it’s all about how they manage it. Luckily, there are things you can do that will help. First of all, think of all the things that you don’t like about yourself and write them down. Now, look at them more closely and see if there is a possibility to change them.